Life moves so quickly these days. Everything about this day and age is fast-paced. It can often feel like we’re spinning in place, unable to catch our breath. So how do we deal with overwhelm? It might be overwhelm in life in general, throughout your wedding planning, at your job, or maybe you’re just so overwhelmed with ideas that you can’t figure out how to start. How do we shake it? I’m certainly no expert, but I do plan weddings for a living and I manage to do it without too much stress in my everyday life. (Ps. Did you know wedding planning/event coordination is considered one of the top 10 most stressful jobs!).
Here are my Top 5 Tips on How to Deal with Overwhelm
- Change your outlook. Revaluate your situation and talk yourself up. What are the positives in the situation you are facing?
- If all you can think of are the negatives, ask yourself, in the worse case scenario, what would happen. What will you do? How will you deal with the overwhelm as it hits you? What is the second worse scenario and how would you deal with that. Making a game plan to deal with any and all possible negative or daunting situations is key to feeling like you can take charge and deal with the overwhelm.
- Fuel your body. Make sure your body is getting the nutrients it needs to keep your hormones in check and you feeling good about yourself!
- Excercise. If you are a gym person, go! Workout your frustrations. As Elle Woods says, ” Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy.” I personally am a huge yoga fan. Not only do I feel like my body is in shape, but after a practice, my mind is too. There is something so satisfying about the way I feel after Yoga.
- Experiment with mediation. Now hear me out! I used to think meditation was all hooey, but after getting more serious into my yoga practice and reading a few books on the topic, I started trying to for myself. If I feel stuck, stressed, sad, or even just in dire need of a break, I’ll take even just 15 minutes to breath, think, reconnect, and reground myself.
Here’s a free 30-Day Meditation challenge by Mind Place.
First of all, I can’t believe it’s already the end of January! Why does time move so quickly these days? Truthfully, I’ve never been a huge Valentine’s Day lover, but I guess it’s nice to celebrate the small things. I don’t think Valentine’s Day should be a day when you show your love, love because obviously if you don’t do that the other 364 days of the year, what difference would one day make, BUT I do think it’s a fun, cute holiday to have fun with. Bake heart-shaped cookies or other desserts, have a little pink and red party with your kids, and take the opportunity to make a date-night happen between you and your partner. If you’re a gift person, here’s a list of a few Valentine’s Day gift ideas, that won’t break your bank and are super lovely and fun.
Why she’ll love it: Not only is this gift personalized with your love’s initial, it’s rose gold (swoon) and it’s Kate Spade! Show me a girl who doesn’t love herself some Kate Spade.
Why she’ll love it: It’s gorgeous! A watch face filled to the brim with pretty anenome and peonies, finished off with rose gold? Yes please, I’ll take it! In case you haven’t noticed, I’m obsessed with rose gold. I do think this watch would make the perfect Valentines Day gift.
Why she’ll love it: Glossier is a skin-care first brand that is committed to using natural sources to help us all improve our skincare and beauty game. Great for dry winter skin, the Body Hero set smells amazing and makes your skin glow! The lotion is one of my personal favourites!
Why she’ll love it: Not only do these pajamas look cozy, they are sexy at the same time. A win-win if you ask me!
What do you think? Would you be happy to receive any of these as gifts?
One of my huge motivators for eating well and staying in shape is of course, our upcoming wedding. Can I get an Amen to that? I know I’m not the only one who feels this way! I’m just looking to be the best version of myself, especially on our wedding day. Earlier this week I wrote about how we often eat an adaptive version of Paleo. While this recipe isn’t Paleo, it is full of lots of good stuff! I made these nachos with a vegan cheese but you can definitely add regular cheese. Honestly, since we are not vegan, I would make these with regular cheddar next time as it adds more protein! I find the only way we manage to eat relatively healthy is to eat foods that we WANT to be eating. Simple enough right? That’s why, when I made these Skillet nachos, I thought about how to incorporate protein, fibre, and good fats.
The important thing to remember about these Skillet Nachos, is that they are made with REAL, whole food. Growing up, my mom almost never made food that wasn’t from scratch. I didn’t know people even ate things like boxed mashed potatoes until I went to a friends house and that was what her mom served up. Personally, I think boxed potatoes taste like the actual box they come in. And have you ever read the ingredients in them? Mashed potatoes are probably the easiest thing in the world to make, especially if you buy yellow potatoes and you don’t peel the skin. Cut, boil, mash, season, eat. Anyway’s I’m getting off topic here when my point is, if you’re still eating “convenience products”, stop now. They usually aren’t any more convenient than making whatever it is you want to eat from scratch. The amount of salt and even hidden sugars is what’s keeping you from having the best version of your body because it’s keeping you bloated and craving more salt and sugar!
Back to the Nachos, here is my recipe for Nutritious Skillet Nachos.
Nutritious Skillet Nachos
1 pound of lean ground beef
1 can of black beans, rinsed
2 tbls ground cumin
1 tbls paprika
1/2 tbls garlic powder
1/2 tbls onion powder
1/2 tbls chilli powder
1 tbls dried oregeno
Salt and Peper to taste
White Bean Chips (This is the Brand I used )
2 cups of shredded dairy-free or regular cheddar (note that dairy-free cheese doesn’t melt the same way)
1 red onion, diced
1 bell pepper, diced
1 jalapeno pepper, diced
1 tomato, diced
Serve with Guac
1/2 red onion
Juice of 1 lime
salt and pepper to taste ( I like my guac fairly salty)
Combine all the guac ingredients, cover with plastic wrap, set aside in the fridge.
To make the Nachos
Heat oven to 425 degrees.
Heat a pan over medium-high heat. Add in your ground beef, black beans and nacho seasoning. Cook until browned.
In your skillet, layer chips, meat, veggies, and cheese in two layers. Top off with extra veggies. Cook until the cheese is melty and the veggies are soft but crisp along the edges. Again, if you are using dairy-free cheese, it won’t fully melt that way regular cheese does.
Looking for an intro to paleo eating? I’m no expert, and in fact, I’m far from it but Jordan and I have been eating Paleo or at least “adaptive-Paleo” for a while now. (Note, I definitely wrote this post last week, and we’re currently on a hiatus from Paleo (ha!), but still healthy-whole eating!) So I’d like to share about how and what we eat when we do eat Paleo and why it makes us feel good!
Paleo is often a diet for people who have allergies or intolerances. Jordan and I have neither. With that being said, it’s not quite a lifestyle change for us yet. We eat Paleo because we both notice a big difference in our bodies when we cut out dairy and of course those evil white (but so so good!) card or grains. With that being said, we typically do a stretch of about 2 weeks, just as a way to restart our bodies if you will. This time with our own wedding coming up and after coming off of the holidays we’re trying for a longer period of time that at the moment doesn’t have an end. We are allowing ourselves one day that we choose each week to eat something that’s an old favourite. This is when we will cook a pasta dish, order a pizza, make real homemade nachos WITH REAL CHEESE, etc. It’s also a day we’ll allow ourselves to have a glass or two of wine (or beer for Jordan).
If you’re looking for an intro to Paleo eating that will help you detox or get really serious about a lifestyle change, you should definitely read Whole 30.
There’s a lot of science behind the diet and it’s all explained in the book. Honestly, we’ve never officially followed Whole 30. Again because we aren’t super strict about our diet, and we’re doing this more to just be healthier, we kind of eat what I’ll call an adaptive paleo diet. For example, Whole 30/Paleo doesn’t allow beans/legumes and they used to not allow white potatoes. We’ve always included both into our meals in moderation. Ps. Whole 30 does allow white potatoes now! Woo!
If you’re just looking to eat a little healthier (like us) or you’re trying to lose weight, I suggest planning out a specific amount of time to try paleo for. With that being said, it doesn’t mean eat super great and then after 2 weeks, you go back to eating cheeseburgers and pizza every day. When we go off, our cheats are still healthy, protein-filled choices. Homemade whole wheat pasta (in this amazing pasta maker– *Notes below), with veggies and a light sauce or meat-packed bolognese.
I’m excited to start posting my own recipes and recipe adaptations for you in the near future, so hopefully, you can also find inspiration from that!
Here are some links to get you started:
* This pasta maker is amazing! You get fresh, homemade pasta in 15 minutes or less! The best part is NO MESS! I’m totally adding in way too many !!!’s here, but I can’t say enough good things about it. All you have to do is at the ingredients into the machine, and it kneads the dough and feeds it out through whatever shape disc you put on the machine. If you’ve ever made homemade pasta, you know how much of a mess it makes with flour ending up all over your entire kitchen! It’s also really hard to get the perfect thinness out of the dough or keeping that consistent in each noodle. I also love that we know exactly what ingredients are in the pasta. It’s 100% worth the price tag.
If you’ve been following the series, you know a little bit about our plans for our own wedding. If you haven’t and your interested, you can read them here:How we Developed Our Wedding Vision, Finding a Wedding Dress, Choosing the Madhatters, and To Tent or Not to Tent. In this post, I want to talk about what to do when you realize you can’t please everyone. I’ll start by sharing some of our own experiences.
Essentially, we always envisioned a small intimate celebration. To start the day, we knew we wanted to be surrounded by only our immediate family and very closest friends. It just seems more special to us to have the people who are in our everyday life. I don’t mean that we see those people every single day, but chances are we at least talk to them once a week or make a point of getting together with them each month (being an adult is busy right?). They’re the people we have dinner parties and gatherings with. It’s not that we don’t love or think the rest of our family is special, we are SO grateful to both have such amazing families and because of that we can’t just add one aunt who might want to come to the ceremony or a friend that we’ve had since high school yet we don’t really see anymore- because we all know what kind of tangled web that spins.
We also wanted to emphasize the party part of the celebration, because what better way to celebrate? We envisioned beautiful, locally sourced charcuterie displays and so many of them that no one would be hungry. We saw people gathering around with energy to chat (wine in hand) with family members they haven’t seen in a while or possibly to even make a new friend. We also imagined those same people getting out on the dance floor and busting a move to our carefully curated band. What we didn’t imagine was stuffing people so full of banquet style food… you know (bread, then soup, then pasta, then your entree, then salad, then dessert) and then expecting them to not be too full to want to move!
But the thing is, and here is the point of this story, you can’t please everyone. You can’t possibly meet everyone’s expectations and some people expect that 5-course meal that leaves them feeling so full they can’t get up! I was recently telling one of our guests about our plans and I could literally see the disappointment come across their face. While they didn’t say anything negative, it was all in the look. And you know what? That left me feeling like we had to do more. That everything we had planned, wasn’t enough. All because of one look.
Can you imagine that? Having someone that you love, and who loves you back, being disappointed about how you choose to celebrate this huge milestone in your own life. It’s not just a personal choice that is keeping our wedding on the small, casual side. It’s also the fact that we have a lot of big spend milestones also happening this year that we have to save for and on top of that we want to take an amazing honeymoon to celebrate the fact that we just got married! Is that selfish? I don’t think so.
The even crazier thing about all of this is that that person making a big stink (or maybe just silent stink-face), doesn’t actually care. Take “someone I know” for example. She didn’t get invited to a wedding and she went on about it (just to us, not to the bride or her family) and my response to that was “So, you don’t even want to go.” and her response was ” I know’. So she wasn’t invited to a wedding that she didn’t want to go to… there shouldn’t be a problem, right? And you know if she did get an invitation, she’d be complaining that she had to go to the wedding. I’m literally sitting here laughing at the ridiculousness of this situation because you can’t please everyone. You can’t please everyone. How many people actually like sitting through the ceremony. A few romantics probably, but I can’t honestly see any of my friends or family members who just loves going to the weddings for the ceremony. The ceremony seals the deal and the celebration comes afterward.
The moral of this story is, you do you boo. While you should always put the guest experience at the top of your priority list, it doesn’t mean the guests get to dictate what type of experience you’re going to give them. Fill their tummies with something delicious, never let anyone leave hungry, make sure everyone who wants one has a buzz, and do what you can to keep the energy of the party at full capacity.
Woah, that was a lot. Let me know if you are currently, or have gone through a similar situation during your wedding planning in the comments below OR send me a message if you need help with anything, even just help with making a decision to do your own, out of the box thing.
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