Have you ever been to a wedding (or shower, or gift giving party) where you didn’t recieve a recieve a thank you note? It’s not too common as most people know this simple etiquette rule, but I have. It’s not a nice feeling when you spend hours looking for the perfect gift for someone, so perfect that you even go over your budget a little to get them this gift, and then you don’t get a personalized thank you afterwards.
I touched on this subject during one of my last wedding etiquette posts, but I want to go a little further into detail with this one.
1. You should send your thank you notes out within 3 months of your wedding date. Your guests know you are busy and likely were away on a honey moon. When things get settled, sit down and get organized.
2. Personally thank each person for the gifts you have recieved. ”Dear______, thank you so much for the toaster, we look so forward to making toast with it each morning. “
3. Tell each person what you will do with the gift you received (see above). If you recieve cash, tell them what you will do with it, if you don’t know yet, make something useful up.
Those are the simple rules to follow when sending a thank you note, but who should recieve one?
- Anyone who attended your wedding, shower, or engagement party with a gift or money should recieve a personalized note.You bridal party.
- Don’t forget to include a personalized note to some of your closest friends. It’s not always an easy job to be in a wedding party, so make sure your sincere thank-you’s are known.
- Anyone who hosted a shower or party for you.
- Anyone who housed or entertained your wedding guests while in town.
- Vendors, if they do a job at or above your expectations.
- Whoever hosted your wedding.
From Emily Post